Don’t Embrace the Cactus!

cactusThe Cactus or the Dream!

For most of her teen years Doreen could be seen wandering around her small hometown  with a notebook in one hand and a pen in the other. She filled the notebooks with poetry, imaginary stories and journalistic snippets. Sometimes the events she wrote about actually took place in her area and sometimes they were the magical workings of a bright imaginary mind. The writing itself made Doreen happy because it countered the harsh and angry atmosphere of her home.  Doreen was a loner and preferred to observe events and report about them because she had more control over the outcome when she wielded her pen to paper.

quill-175980_150During her last year of school Doreen envisioned her life attending college to become a journalist and then as a reporter for a major newspaper while she also wrote books. She cherished this vision, until the day the topic of her future came up and her father adamantly said, “No,” to her idea of going to journalism college because as he said, “you become a policewomen or a chef, because people will always get into trouble and they always need to eat.”

Boundless Joy, Passion and Love.

Stunned to silence, Doreen felt her breath weigh heavy in her chest and the atmosphere around her turned claustrophobic. Doreen’s wings of optimism broke. A series of events and a move to a different country and Doreen put down her dreams, as she coped with the rigors of life in culinary school. The boundless joy, passion and love that had surged toward attainment of a writing career was suddenly placed along with her dreams in the buried dreams graveyard. Continue reading

Your Perception Adjusts Your Reflection

girl-107163_150 Many of us struggle with the reflection in the mirror, especially when the mirror refuses to display the size body we have in mind as perfect for us. This seeing other than what we want to see chips away at our happiness level and thus eventually affects our health.

So, how do we alter the cycle of seeing, feeling and being affected by our reflection in the mirror? We begin by understanding that we are responsible for everything we create, whether or not we understand how we created what we see. Ownership of our creative power allows us to recreate our external reflections without emotional attachment or physical detriment to what we see in the mirror. We are not the reflection in the mirror but are merely using our own power of manifestation to see whatever reflection we put in the mirror!

The reflection in the mirror is the exact formation of what you perceive yourself to be in this moment. This is so because perception is more powerful than your mind. In order to see and create the slim, happy, healthy person that you want to see, you have to remove the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions of each previous negative viewing. Each haphazard string of words you have uttered, such as, “I hate my thighs,” “God, I feel so fat today,” “I look so bloated,” “Do these clothes make me look fat?” and, “I wish I could lose weight” affect your perception and therefore your reality. Right after uttering or mindfully lingering on these thoughts, you can notice your vibration drops. Continue reading

Guidance to Rewrite Your Life-Story

Well, it is another day of sun and action here in Florida, I have not been up to par physically because for the first time in five years I am under the weather with bronchitis issues. I am not going to let that stop me though and I did enjoy an evening out with some friends at the local Ritz Carlton.

Tanya and AvalonGoing out in the evening is not a regular occurrence as most of my past years have been dedicated to my role as a single mother and as an author. My youngest is now twelve and has moved into some interests and friendships that do not require the immediate attendance of a mother although I am never far from access. But because of this new shift in attendance I have cultivated a desire to go out and relax in a social environment with friends my own age.

So I would say I am in a form of social transformation and if secrets are revealed it is a long over due one. I am looking forward to going out more and meeting people just for the fun of it. But in order to do that I have to shift out of my old negative stories and behaviors.

social-200286_150So what are some of those stories that my particular circumstances would have to rewrite. Well the story that as a single mother I don’t have time for a social life. Or the story that it is irresponsible to go out when you have children that need your attention at home. These stories that I told myself limited my social life and also kept me out of some social environments that are healthy, such as the gym. You see once you dedicate yourself to only playing the role of mother to the exclusion of everything else you limit your own life and do not send an empowering message to your children. Continue reading

Your Perception Adjusts Your Reflection

girl-107163_150Many of us struggle with the reflection in the mirror, especially when the mirror refuses to display the size body we have in mind as perfect for us. This seeing other than what we want to see, chips away at our happiness level and thus eventually affects our health.

So, how do we alter the cycle of seeing, feeling and being affected by our reflection in the mirror? We begin by understanding that we are responsible for everything we create, whether or not we understand how we created what we see. Ownership of our creative power allows us to recreate our external reflections without emotional attachment or physical detriment to what we see in the mirror. We are not the reflection in the mirror but are merely using our own power of manifestation to see whatever reflection we put in the mirror!

The reflection in the mirror is the exact formation of what you perceive yourself to be in this moment. This is so because perception is more powerful than your mind. In order to see and create the slim, happy, healthy person that you want to see, you have to remove the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions of each previous negative viewing. Each haphazard string of words you have uttered, such as, “I hate my thighs,” “God, I feel so fat today,” “I look so bloated,” “Do these clothes make me look fat?” and, “I wish I could lose weight” affect your perception and therefore your reality. Right after uttering or mindfully lingering on these thoughts, you can notice your vibration drops. Continue reading

Guidance to Rewrite Your Life-Story

Well, it is another day of sun and action here in Florida, I have not been up to par physically because for the first time in five years I am under the weather with bronchitis issues. I am not going to let that stop me though and I did enjoy an evening out with some friends at the local Ritz Carlton.

Tanya and AvalonGoing out in the evening is not a regular occurrence as most of my past years have been dedicated to my role as a single mother and as an author. My youngest is now twelve and has moved into some interests and friendships that do not require the immediate attendance of a mother although I am never far from access. But because of this new shift in attendance I have cultivated a desire to go out and relax in a social environment with friends my own age.

So I would say I am in a form of social transformation and if secrets are revealed it is a long over due one. I am looking forward to going out more and meeting people just for the fun of it. But in order to do that I have to shift out of my old negative stories and behaviors.

social-200286_150So what are some of those stories that my particular circumstances would have to rewrite. Well the story that as a single mother I don’t have time for a social life. Or the story that it is irresponsible to go out when you have children that need your attention at home. These stories that I told myself limited my social life and also kept me out of some social environments that are healthy, such as the gym. You see once you dedicate yourself to only playing the role of mother to the exclusion of everything else you limit your own life and do not send an empowering message to your children. Continue reading

Stand Your Vibrational Ground!

stairs-70509_150 It is hard to receive guidance from spirit if we do not stand our vibrational ground! We are our own worst enemy when it comes to getting off track with living our purpose in life.

I recently experienced a re-encounter, that I share in a moment that will clarify what this means. In fact I had two experiences one that was over in a weekend and one that dragged on for months, both were a test to me standing my vibrational ground.

But first lets take a look at the nuance behind how we attain a new vibrational level. We move up in vibrational frequency as we let go of non-serving content in our life and we embrace, move and embody what it is that harmonizes with our purpose for being.

Now both of those criteria are different for each person and so we cannot simply and say, if you do as I do, you will also feel like you are living your purpose. The key to living our purpose is really in how we vision our life at its greatest manifestation and stay on target until we look up and it is now our manifest reality. Continue reading

Stand Your Vibrational Ground!

stairs-70509_150Stand Your Vibrational Ground! It is hard to receive guidance from spirit if we do not stand our vibrational ground! We are our own worst enemy when it comes to getting off track with living our purpose in life.

I recently experienced a re-encounter, that I share in a moment that will clarify what this means. In fact I had two experiences one that was over in a weekend and one that dragged on for months, both were a test to me standing my vibrational ground.

But first lets take a look at the nuance behind how we attain a new vibrational level. We move up in vibrational frequency as we let go of non-serving content in our life and we embrace, move and embody what it is that harmonizes with our purpose for being.

Now both of those criteria are different for each person and so we cannot simply and say, if you do as I do, you will also feel like you are living your purpose. The key to living our purpose is really in how we vision our life at its greatest manifestation and stay on target until we look up and it is now our manifest reality.

giftOften people share with you the next big thing that will bring you success. But they really have no clue what your inner desires are and they rarely if ever take time to even sit and listen to those desires before they come up with advice for you. So by giving any attention to what is not aligned with your inner purpose, you put your own vibrations in a place of contamination. Yes, the lure of millions and the next promising adventure is hard to resist, especially when you might now live paycheck to paycheck but to build anything of substance where you are complimentary compensated you have to stand your vibrational ground and continue to invest your energy in your own vision.

Now to the re-encounter that I recently had. Roughly seven years ago I met a person who I invested time in coaching. I slowly recognized that no matter what I said, she repeated her tragedies almost every time we met. I felt as if I was casting my pearls before swine. Put I persevered, basically because I was relatively new at mentoring and coaching and back then even a non paying client was considered a good client. This person moved away and we lost contact until I received an email requesting to meet. I have a personal mentor and they suggested that I decline. warningBut I went. (I know listen to your mentor!) It was then that I clearly saw how powerful the negative aspect of one-self can take over and cause a person to lose just about everything that they had attained. She was still repeating the same negative stories and had now added a few more. I saw how repeating your negative stories increases their weight to affect your life. During the conversation I knew that the intention of the meeting was for her to find an agreer, to confirm the hardships that she was facing. This is where I had to stand my vibrational ground. I could not, would not and never will agree that life and others are the cause of our own misfortune. So because of this I excused myself, as my energy vibrations were not congruent with the person she had now become.

u29029045The other incident was of my making and one that many of us inadvertently do. Especially when we have a business that we are working on that may not be delivering the fruits of our effort as quickly as we like. So occasionally we may encounter a temptation to veer off track as it promises an imaginary reward of the success that we inherently feel. I recently veered of track because of an old offline business venture that I had never completely lain to rest, so at a crucial point in my online business I side-stepped into a partnership that really had nothing to do with the work I do now. But because I was gaining in the success in my online business and at a vibration that was seeing some return on my energy invested, the new shiny offline (partnership) also realized a relatively fast return. But nothing about that new shiny offline business felt long-term to me. It did not elicit in me the same passion I feel as I work with clients and their energetic transformations. I am blessed to have seen very quickly that the solution was to drop the offline venture and get back on track with what is my life passion. I am grateful that I did not lose any of the vibrational level that I have spent years rising too.

So, to not find yourself pulled and swayed into places and situation that can cause a vibrational drop, learn how to recognize if what appears in your reality and what vies for your attention is really something that raises your vibration or is it a test whether you are committed enough to stand your vibrational ground.